My pet peeve: Seeing unnecessary schooling for unpopular opinions shared in a dedicated thread.
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so responding to a post bothers you? if someone did not want a response to something then they probably should not post it on a public forum
A little bit of banter and back and forth is very fine and encouraged, but I think what @martin means is that sometimes there are instances where the aim is to try and change the mind of the person giving the unpopular opinion (in the right thread in the context of the forum).
Regardless of the thread itself, I also empathize why this happens in other threads as well. As someone who is passionate about this hobby, I have the tendency to overvalue certain topics and opinions and I feel angry if someone disagrees with me. Because, for me, my whole world will collapse if someone disagrees with something I so strongly believe in and the hobby will be ruined. The better thing for me to do is to stop over-valuing it because ultimately it is just another topic, just another opinion from a fellow collector.
I have no control of what others think. But I can control what I think and how I react. I can respond or will not, but I will try to consider the good.
Cheers!
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Agreed! We need to let this thread live and breath whether we like it or not. For example, I ONLY like posts that are on-topic, whether I share that unpopular opinion or not.
This shouldn’t be a discussion board, unless it’s on the validity of the “unpopularness”. No?
And THAT is my opinion, popular or not!
edit: Oops! This isn’t the unpopular opinions thread. 
But I think the same rules apply here.
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I like eBay’s GSP (now eBay International Shipping). Why would I open myself up to more risk to save you a few bucks on customs? Buy from someone else or get a U.S. vault address. Presumptuous messages like this really annoy me.
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So that the item gets sold. It sucks having to pay extra fees and when possible I try to circumvent fees. When it is something like this I try to share the profits with the seller. If you dont ask you dont win. I know customs or fees are not the sellers responsibility, but we can try!
At least remove the “brother” and “man” from your message and the chance a seller actually wants to help increases 10 fold.
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I’m from finland so i definitely understand the pain of shipping costs and custom fees but this still feels awkward, giving more risk for the seller for reducing the amount the buyer has to pay doesn’t look reasonable, at least when ebay always takes buyer’s side this feels like a risk never worth taking. If the buyer suggested regular mail but payment off ebay via paypal f&f i would see it more suitable. Buyer pays less but also takes the risk on their side
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Yes indeed, it should be a process of giving and taking, only taking would not be feasible. And if the seller is not willing to work with a buyer, that is completely fine and understandable as well. As long as all communication remains respectful everything should be fine. And I agree with handschoen that including brother, man and such does not help with respectful speech.
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Maybe also remove the third sentence as well. A pet peeve of mine (in life) is when people unnecessarily speak like this.
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The entire message is unproffesional but the Dude, Friend, Mate, Brother triggers me the most.
Also with all the vault services you have so many options to take control of how to receive your orders yourself.
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I kindly recommended that the buyer purchase another (cheaper) copy from a different seller, so that they’ll pay less for the item overall even if it was sent through eBay International Shipping. They appreciated the link and I haven’t heard back, so I assume that they found what they were looking for.
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Yeah, in general I feel like too many people today use a “fake familiar” tone to try to get something they want instead of being real. “Hey bro, do me a solid.” “What’s up friend, [insert random compliment here] [then ask favor or start a conversation.]”
Just be real. say what you want, and if there’s a reason, give it. Be considerate, but also be direct.
That’s my opinion, anyway… I mean, if you agree. Maybe… I don’t know. It’s not that big a deal… 
Outstanding service! They probably don’t even think twice about the fact. 
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Exactly.
There is no etiquette or insight. I can count on one hand the number of times that I was approached by a buyer in a kind, respectful, way.
Yep, me too. It’s real off-putting.
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This is weird since i always try to be as polite as possible when messaging sellers, feels like shooting myself in the leg if i’m even remotely impolite or say anything stupid since obviously my questions are just extra work for the seller they can very well just ignore if they feel answering isn’t leading to me pressing the buy now -button
My pet peeve is the average ebay user/buyer. Some of these people I wonder how they got out of bed in the morning.
Also cant stand the international people that want me to help them evade taxes. And want me to lower my prices along with helping them break the law. Ah yes let me risk getting in legal trouble so I can make less money, makes logical sense.
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That greasy, overfamiliar tone can be really annoying, in my experience it’s just as likely to come from loneliness, insecurity or poor communication skills as it is intentional disrespect. I try to remain professional and see if they reciprocate. If they do, cool, it’s hard enough to communicate with people these days. If they don’t, fine, eat shit.
Sometimes you just have to give it to people though. Back in my Deli days we had a problem customer nicknamed “Aunty Pink” because of the way she dressed. Totally unbearable, 76 years old and foul mouthed like nobodies business. Everyone would quiver in fear when she came in on her walker and started ripping into people. One day I had had enough and gave her an earful and from that day on I was the only person she wouldn’t bother, it was as if a switch was turned. On several occasions she told some of my coworkers to fuck off because she wanted to be served by me. 
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I generally find it’s just a lack of confidence in one’s position, or social presentation, rather than coming from a place of “macho man”, poser, good-ol-boy crap.
I agree with you there. I treat everyone as if they don’t mean any malice by it, but I don’t suffer posers or cons.
Aunty Pink
bahaha! yeah. I actually dated a girl who was kinda like that, She was cold and blunt with everyone, and I finally called her out. We ended up dating for a bit because I didn’t take her shit. In the end, she was still a kinda crappy person, but it was mostly a defense mechanism. Some people just put up walls like that… So, yeah, I don’t treat them differently. They’ll change, or leave.
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“hey brother relist this solely for my benefit and you gain absolutely nothing”
Sellers using registered mail on low value items. Had 2 orders under $50 recently go registered mail. It takes an extra week to deliver and required me to stay home waiting for the mail man.
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