Spouse/Partner Involvement in Collecting

[Dyl]

How do you involve your spouse or partner in collecting?

Some possible questions to consider:

• Do they know about your collection?
• Do they actively contribute to your collection?
• Are they supportive of your collecting hobby?
• Have you discussed plans for your collection when you die?
• Are there things that you do not discuss with your spouse/partner about your collection?
• Do they know the value of your collection?
• Have you discussed plans for your collection if a divorce or separation were to occur?
• Would they help you to finance a purchase?
• Have they asked for your help in creating their own collection?
• Do they attend events with you?
• Have they objected to anything about your collecting hobby?
• How do they feel about your collection display and storage?

[jaws]

You writing a will, Dyl?

[slowqueen]

@Dyl

• Do they know about your collection?

It’s pretty hard to miss, my desk is covered in Slowpokes and I get mysterious mail from foreign countries almost every day

• Do they actively contribute to your collection?

He gets me plushies sometimes of Slowpoke and various region-exclusive Pikachus. He doesn’t really get into the TCG side though.

• Are they supportive of your collecting hobby?

Very! He listens to me talk about items I’m excited about, engages actively by asking questions, and always watches the show-and-tell on mail days.

• Have you discussed plans for your collection when you die?

Nope

• Are there things that you do not discuss with your spouse/partner about your collection?

Hmm, I think I’m a pretty open book with him. He knows the stories of most of my interesting cards, the value of the expensive ones, my active collecting goals and my plans for what’s next.

• Do they know the value of your collection?

Yes

• Have you discussed plans for your collection if a divorce or separation were to occur?

He can pry my slowpokes from these cold dead hands (no we haven’t discussed this)

• Would they help you to finance a purchase?

I wouldn’t put either of us in this position

• Have they asked for your help in creating their own collection?

He actually asked for a Slowpoke card of my choice, and he also loves Blaziken so I get him Blaziken cards sometimes. I got him a small binder as a gift and I give him cards I think he might like.

• Do they attend events with you?

He says he’d go to a card show with me, but so far hasn’t wanted to wake up before noon on a Saturday to actually go

• Have they objected to anything about your collecting hobby?

He has only ever raised concerns when I’ve been super obsessed and losing sleep.

• How do they feel about your collection display and storage?

We have a small apartment so I keep all things TCG pretty confined to a few spaces, except we do kind of have plushies everywhere. I’ve told him if we get a house one day I’ll want a Slowpoke display case. He’s cool with it.

[banks]

Same as @slowqueen my partner is pretty supportive. They like to see me get excited about the cards I collect and we do tcg-adjacent art projects together i.e. building a Yuka Morii binder, cutting shadowboxes and painting full-art cards

[mrbubbles]

@Dyl

Do they know about your collection?

Yes. She is aware of what I do with regards to the hobby.

@Dyl

Do they actively contribute to your collection?

No. She does not understand the nuances so I would also not want her spending money unnecessarily. She does a lot of Pokemon related shopping for our young son.

@Dyl

Are they supportive of your collecting hobby?

She is supportive in the sense she does not bother me much about it. She has accepted that she does not understand it, or wants to and also that I am happy with whatever I am doing and she is fine with it.

@Dyl

Have you discussed plans for your collection when you die?

We have discussed finances with regards to investments and money but not cards. If I am being very honest, I feel my collection will not be impactful financially to my wife if something happens to me. Knowing her, she will probably never sell any of my cards.

@Dyl

Are there things that you do not discuss with your spouse/partner about your collection?

No. Simply because these conversations do not come up because there is no common ground or points for discussion.

@Dyl

Do they know the value of your collection?

She has an indication of the value of some of the cards I think, but not the overall value.

@Dyl

Have you discussed plans for your collection if a divorce or separation were to occur?

No. Again, same like in a death scenario, these extreme circumstances means we have much bigger issues than my cards.

@Dyl

Would they help you to finance a purchase?

Probably yes if I ask. But I will never do that to her. Considering it is a hobby and the ridiculous prices for some cards, it will be really unfair towards her. I would rather never have the card in my collection.

@Dyl

Have they asked for your help in creating their own collection?

No. She is not interested in the hobby.

@Dyl

Do they attend events with you?

She has in the past but I can clearly see she does not enjoy it (crowds, aimless walking etc). I will start involving my son in the future to have company

@Dyl

Have they objected to anything about your collecting hobby?

No. We have clear division in roles and responsibilities with regards to finances. As long as I am holding up my end of the bargain and also being financially prudent, she does not have any objections.

@Dyl

How do they feel about your collection display and storage?

I have no displays in the house except some Pokemon related paintings, custom art etc which she does not mind.

Cheers!

[pikachutcg]

* Do they know about your collection?

Yes

* Do they actively contribute to your collection?

No

* Are they supportive of your collecting hobby?

Yes

* Have you discussed plans for your collection when you die?

No, though it was a thought when i started documenting and scanning everything in my personal collection. That was secretly one of the reasons why i went into so much depth with everything, e.g having links to simple things such as which set a card is from, links about variants and more rarer cards etc. The goal was to make it easier for it to be sold if they chose to.

* Are there things that you do not discuss with your spouse/partner about your collection?

Not on purpose, i just don’t think its that interesting to people who aren’t in the hobby

* Do they know the value of your collection?

I don’t even know that (it isn’t much though)

* Have you discussed plans for your collection if a divorce or separation were to occur?

No

* Would they help you to finance a purchase?

I would not finance a purchase or ask or someone else to help

* Have they asked for your help in creating their own collection?

No, They are not interested in the hobby

* Do they attend events with you?

As in card shows? They would if i asked, but i’d imagine it would be boring and a waste of time for them overall waiting for me to sift through thousands of cards for hours.
Conventions though is a family activity, something the kids can enjoy too

* Have they objected to anything about your collecting hobby?

No, maybe pulled a few faces at prices of certain purchases which is understandable but no objection.

* How do they feel about your collection display and storage?

Supportive, i used to have a big glass cabinet where i would display stuff but now its locked away in a cuboard, mainly because of space issues and also because of children / visitors.

[emolga_pachirisu]

When my wallet goes empty i try to convince other people including my wife to invest in pokemon. It is shopping by procuration. Convincing and seeing someone else buy the things i want with their money tames my inner spending demon. Just made my spouse buy some Gamestop yesterday…and i’ve never even bought any stock in my life

For tcg cards i talk her about the investment opportunity…when in reality i just want to enjoy the slabs at home for myself….handling the crystal celebi in all its shinyness, it doesn’t matter who it belongs to really,

i also try to bribe and instill the pokemon bug into my nephews heads and kids around me (that is actually very easy)

the challenge of making others spend their money on things you want, is a very enjoyable game for me

She can instantly discernate which cards have aesthetic value and we have the same taste when i show her cards. Recently she tried to make an effort being more knowledgeable in the hobby by asking if we could play the tcg. I told her no, that the tcg sucks in terms of mechanics, and that if she absolutely wanted to play tcgs with me we should rather try flesh and blood or magic.

My collection is entirely psa10 (apart from binders and some sealed which is less than 5% of the value) for maximum liquidity and everything is well kept in order and tracking information on a spreadsheet so it would not represent a big issue to sell. My only problem is that a tend to gravitate more towards niche cards….

[eevee_alex]

Related to the question… for us still looking for that special someone,I would really only consider being with someone, if they’re supportive of my interests; collecting, politics, etc.

My question for those who have found a partner, how and when did you tell them about your collection? Start slow or everything everywhere all at once?

My advice, just have confidence in yourself and the right person will find you.

[Nightvulture]

Should have been a closed ended question

“Do you involve your spouse” with a poll. Let me help, would look something like this…

Yes: 3 votes

No: 186 vote

[Kijamon]

We dabbled together. Pack here and there.

During covid and pregnancy we collected every SV era set/promo but it was more me buying and her paying for takeaway during our pack opening celebration evenings.

I’d say set wise i’ve paid 95%+ of the costs.

For Raichu it’s 100% me. She’d never know what to buy or look for and I don’t expect her to.

I have told her my plan of putting red and green stickers on card slabs so she knows which are valuable and worth the effort.

Oh and she knows i’ve offered a wad for the final raichu. I wouldn’t say she was thrilled but she has a fairly easy outlook on money

[Parallax]

[banks]

Some of us are the girlfriends lol

[Ratequaza]

Was waiting for a response like that haha

[johto]

@Dyl

• Do they know about your collection?

Yeh.

@Dyl

• Do they actively contribute to your collection?

Yes through packs.

@Dyl

• Are they supportive of your collecting hobby?

Yes.

@Dyl

• Have you discussed plans for your collection when you die?

Auction.

@Dyl

• Are there things that you do not discuss with your spouse/partner about your collection?

Nope.

@Dyl

• Do they know the value of your collection?

I don’t even know the full value of my collection but they know as much as I do.

@Dyl

• Have you discussed plans for your collection if a divorce or separation were to occur?

I keep it all. It’s in writing.

@Dyl

• Would they help you to finance a purchase?

If I needed it.

@Dyl

• Have they asked for your help in creating their own collection?

Not interested but they do like Pokémon.

@Dyl

• Do they attend events with you?

Would if I asked but I wouldn’t want to go to one.

@Dyl

• Have they objected to anything about your collecting hobby?

Never. If anything she encourages me to spend more of my money.

@Dyl

• How do they feel about your collection display and storage?

Encourage me to display more but like pikachutcg I hide everything away because visitors. I don’t like to have to explain my stuff to people who won’t care.

[ascendedbidoof]

@Dyl

Do they know about your collection?

Absolutely

@Dyl

Do they actively contribute to your collection?

In emotional support. I wouldn’t ask her to contribute to anything

@Dyl

Are they supportive of your collecting hobby?

Absolutely. She knows that I’m only buying cards with my fun money and not dipping into our savings for future goals.

@Dyl

Have you discussed plans for your collection when you die?

Not yet.

@Dyl

Are there things that you do not discuss with your spouse/partner about your collection?

Nope, pretty open about everything

@Dyl

Do they know the value of your collection?

She knows that I have some items that are worth (what we consider) a good chunk of money but I doubt she could list any specific numbers. To be honest, I don’t even know the value of my collection. So I suppose we’re both on the same page.

@Dyl

Have you discussed plans for your collection if a divorce or separation were to occur?

Nope. We just got married a few months ago so we’re not ready to talk about divorce yet

@Dyl

Would they help you to finance a purchase?

We are so supportive of each other that we would both help finance each others purchases, if the other really wanted something. However, neither one of us would finance anything that wasn’t 100% necessary

@Dyl

Have they asked for your help in creating their own collection?

She has her own little collection that she’s built up but she’s moved on to collecting other things.

@Dyl

Do they attend events with you?

I’ve gone to one card show and yes, she went with me

@Dyl

Have they objected to anything about your collecting hobby?

Nope, she’s been totally supportive. I also collect responsibly so I’m not doing anything that’s interfering with future goals.

@Dyl

How do they feel about your collection display and storage?

We have a very small house so we are limited with our options for display. What I have currently is fine but she would probably object if I were to bring up adding more display shelves. Not that I would anyway because I am quite aware of how little space we have. Luckily, cards are quite small and I don’t have a large collection so it’s very easy to store everything and keep it out of the way.

Overall, I am very lucky to have a partner who is as supportive as my wife. I think having self control on your own spending habits makes it easier for a partner to support you

[decoypalmette]

@Dyl

Do they know about your collection?

Yes! Although she probably can’t remember how many cards I have, or anything like that. She knows that I’m obsessed.

@Dyl

Do they actively contribute to your collection?

Nope. We once purchased a card together for fun, but honestly she isn’t very interested. She does like several artworks, but unfortunately not everyone is a Pokemon enthusiast
Still, I like buying cards thinking about her reaction, especially cute, grass-type pokemon.

@Dyl

Are they supportive of your collecting hobby?

She is tolerant, but not happy about me spending hundreds for shiny cardboard. In the end though, we’re both pretty frugal and understand each other’s hobbies.

@Dyl

Have you discussed plans for your collection when you die?

Yes! She will be in charge of my collection and vault. Hopefully, the latter won’t be too complicated for her, knowing that she isn’t exactly a tech savvy person.

@Dyl

Are there things that you do not discuss with your spouse/partner about your collection?

I’m fairly open now. It’s also a way to keep myself in check. When we first started dating I was indeed more cautious, but so many things have changed since then.

@Dyl

Do they know the value of your collection?

I told her, but she probably can’t remember the exact value. Also, she can’t tell a Charizord from a Hoppip, so she just gets the overall picture.

@Dyl

Have you discussed plans for your collection if a divorce or separation were to occur?

We strongly believe in having separate accounts, collections and savings. We’re not living together but I would 100% trust her in this regard.

@Dyl

Would they help you to finance a purchase?

I think yes, but it would be a very rare exception (maybe for a trophy, or a crazy deal I can’t miss). I would personally consider it a loan, which must be repaid as soon as possible.

@Dyl

Have they asked for your help in creating their own collection?

She is extremely frugal when it comes to material things, but yes I definitely helped her several times. She doesn’t collect Pokemon though, and she generally lacks the “collector” mindset (she gets bored after a week or 2)

@Dyl

Do they attend events with you?

She really likes events and seeing new people, so definitely yes. When I’m browsing binders from vendors she patiently waits for me.

@Dyl

Have they objected to anything about your collecting hobby?

She didn’t like me buying a 900€ card, which is fair honestly, this hahbee is nuts. Provided that this kind of purchases doesn’t interfere with couple expenses, vacation budget and so on.. it’s ok for her.

@Dyl

How do they feel about your collection display and storage?

We’re not living together yet, but I think she would be cool with my display.
Consider that I’m quite minimalist myself, I would be respectful of shared spaces (definitely not stealing the whole basement for my “no-girl allowed” man cave, of anything like that lol). I obviously expect the same from her.

[eevee]

My wife knows about my collection, and thinks its cute because we share a big love for pokemon. She wants to start one herself, but this craze isnt worth it to her, so she just collects the plushies for now.

She’ll buy me cards at christmas, we’ll pack battle in real life, and on pocket as well as attend cons that have Pokemon. She actually beat the past few games before me because Ive been busier with school lately.

Ive talked with her about my collection before, and its a toss up really…if I die before her then she can sell the stuff if she wants, otherwise..its all getting incinerated like discussed. If she dies before me then its definetely getting torched.

[decoypalmette]

@emolga_pachirisu

When my wallet goes empty i try to convince other people including my wife to invest in pokemon. It is shopping by procuration. Convincing and seeing someone else buy the things i want with their money tames my inner spending demon. Just made my spouse buy some Gamestop yesterday…and i’ve never even bought any stock in my life

For tcg cards i talk her about the investment opportunity…when in reality i just want to enjoy the slabs at home for myself….handling the crystal celebi in all its shinyness, it doesn’t matter who it belongs to really,

i also try to bribe and instill the pokemon bug into my nephews heads and kids around me (that is actually very easy)

the challenge of making others spend their money on things you want, is a very enjoyable game for me

I’m not here to judge, but just for clarification.. is this satire?

[emolga_pachirisu]

It’s not ! But you should read into it a Jessie and James situation : they are honest in their malignient ends, but not competent enough to succeed in causing harm and achieving their mischiefs…can we really qualify them as evil ?

[lemonofpromise]

are you being honest with these people that you’re persuading them for your own personal entertainment though