Completely off-topic of Pokemon, but was wondering if any of you ever experienced being the last single friend in your group of buddies. Find myself experiencing this lately, its been tough because there’s no one else to go out with anymore/hangout with so I find myself just watching a shitload of TV lol. Kind of spent University studying alot/focusing on my career, so now that Im done meeting new women is quite difficult in general…any advice on what you guys did? :]
I have a couple friends like this but their not necessarily the last. I’d say just focus on finding your soul mate if you’re into that. Things like Tinder or hook ups from your own friends work.
Do you also actively try to get your friends to hang out? I noticed I stopped asking friends to hang out but when they ask me I’m totally down. (I’m on the non-single side)
Yeah I’m debating starting the online dating bit but still uncertain about it, I’ve heard its a hit or miss and I typically like meeting people in person better. Yup I always get everyone together to hang out, but with everyone in a rel/with work/school its tough to see everyone more than once every month/2 nowadays
I wouldn’t know the first thing about meeting girls I have been in the same relationship since I was in 6th grade and I am now 24 and being pressured to pop the question! Just ask chicks if they want to come back to your place and check out your pokemon cards, how could they refuse?
Perhaps I haven’t been patient enough yet at this point, but this hasn’t happened over the past 6 years for me. Basically deciding I’m just going to get about 10 corgis and call it good.
Get a dog. Chicks fucking love dogs. And theyre great company. Once a month is pretty frequent actually. Way more frequent than i see my group of buds together! Can also try getting another hobby. Take up triathlon and you wont have time to watch tv…
@mtlballer100 Hahaha this DID happen to me, I was the last single friend for a while. I will give you some advice, however, because I am gay, some things might not apply to you lol but all in all is the same shit same drama whether you are gay, straight or whatever. In my scenario, because I am the only gay guy in my close circle of friends, this led to my friends trying to setting me up with the only person they knew was also gay which was a bit annoying although they had good intentions.
Put yourself out there! Do try dating apps and the reason I suggest this is because if you don’t know where to go out to you are not going to find what you are looking for (This isn’t a Nicholas Sparks world where some random ass person shows up in your neighborhood during the summer and falls in love with you).
Apps/Online dating expands your pool and most of them do all the dirty work for you, set up a profile, put a pic, and people will look and cover the basics of whether they wanna get to know you better. (Be safe and always meet people in public, DON’T GET RAPED!)
Think about it, most of us here don’t go asking around strangers if they happen to collect Pokemon Cards… Instead we are here online, in a community where we know for a fact that we share a common interest. Online dating was good for me because as a gay guy, I was always terrified of going to someone and be like hey you are cute you wanna go out on a date? To get an answer like… I’m not a Fag… So, online, we could all at least agree we were gay lol.
Don’t settle for a Weedle when you can get a Charizard.
Thanks for the wonderful advice man, it is greatly appreciated :] Defs going to give it a try soon! I agree it does take away some of the trivial work, and this site has been monumental in building my collection so why shouldn’t the same thing apply to dating right haha
Have to agree on the Nicholas Sparks bit haha, I always had this delusional fantasy that I’d meet the future wife waiting in line for coffee or smtg, but nahh never worked out that way lol!
All of jj’s advice was spot on, but this one is especially important! And it’s a hard balance because I would add…
Be self-aware and introspective. Know your own personal shortcomings - like quirks, personality traits (positives and then negative side of the positives: i.e. Being easygoing is generally a positive quality, but sometimes too easygoing seems apathetic or indecisive, which can be frustrating). Knowing who you are in a real way can help you find people who are compatible and also help you to be more three-dimensional as you meet and asses your partner’s personality. This advice can also remedy the
“never getting far enough along into a relationship or always dating the same kind of person” problem. For example, I’ve had (guy) friends who always dated for beauty or…“hotness”, and then would be confused when that person had very different or even just straight up, superficial interests. It wasn’t until they recognized the qualities that they were prioritizing in their partners that they had better success in compatibility. This can happen in even more subtle or fundamental ways that are less obvious than my example of dating for looks.
Full disclosure: not single, but friends with enough single people (and married-divorced people) and their drama to offer this point