I’ll set you up
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Tbh, my wife has no idea what I spend on cards and she has told me she doesnt want to know.
I’ve told her prices of a few cards, or sales I’ve had but she doesn’t take much interest in it. Rest assured though, it has marginal impact on our finances/financial future.
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Husbands who spend exorbitant amounts of money on anything without letting their wives know about it are bad husbands.
(How much counts as exorbitant depends on your own financial context).
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My wife also likes Pokemon however she is not that deeply into it as I am, especially not into the TCG. She does not know the exact amount of money I spend every month but she knows that our personal finances always come first and I would never spend money on cards if we would struggle financially. We occasionally talk about the cards and how much they cost/they are worth but it’s more because she is interested in it and not because she thinks it’s to much. After all, she has her own hobbies as well which she spends money on it and I support her as well in this regard.
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I don’t say much about it nor does she want to know as Pokemon cards are vanity purchases.
I’m in a fortunate position where I can afford a good amount while still keeping it around 2-5% of my annual income (Senior SWE at big tech). If I was single I’d definitely ball out on five figure cards though 
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Rest and vest and the best cards will come 
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I’m not secretive about my financial situation—my girlfriend knows exactly how much I earn, and she could ask me at any time how much money I have in my account.
She believes that as long as it’s my own money, I can do whatever I want with it—as long as I don’t get into debt.
I usually only tell her about purchases I make for myself, because I’m genuinely excited about them and want to share that happiness with her
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Rest assured friends, none of you are as bad as this guy (probably)
https://www.reddit.com/r/PokemonTCG/comments/1ki0kt1/relationship_ruined_over_pokemon/
This is horrifying to me- I genuinely can’t understand why people have this attitude towards their partners. If you’re scared of your partner knowing how much you spend on your hobby, then you should probably reconsider how much you’re spending.
My wife and I collect together- her with her Cyndaquils (and other assorted collections) and me with my Piplups. Granted, I make all of the money between the two of us, but I would never buy cards if it jeopardized our finances, and she knows this. We frequently talk about card deals, goals, and our finances though. Even though I take care of things like bills, it’s still important to communicate with each other- we just don’t have the need for secrets like that.
With an ex though.. he would frequently spend his last $5 on cards, leaving me to foot the bill for things like his food and gas, and we weren’t even living together or sharing finances. It’s not like he didn’t make decent money either- he would just blow $2k on packs every other week. It was a serious gambling addiction that he didn’t care to address, which was one of the many, many downfalls of that relationship.
Anyway, don’t keep secrets from your partner, especially when it involves their livelihood too.
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2k on packs every week is absolutely wild. That’s like a 100k a year. Could’ve just bought like 6 trophy cards and had a fantastic collection
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Oh yeah for sure- he tried to hide it from me, but I cleaned his apartment once (I know, I know) and I found receipts. He would go to every store in town and buy out their stock, and then order even more online. By the end, it was seriously just a full-blown gambling addiction.
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A lot of people are not in the relationship they want, they are in the relationship they bargained for, and are as such always walking a tightrope between being an asset and being a liability.
I would never want that dynamic for myself but it is very common.
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Before getting married this past October, my wife was casually into Pokemon but would tease me about “obsessed” with shiny cardboard (she wasn’t wrong). But since we got married, she’s actually become even more supportive of my hobby lol Now she has her own “cute card” binder and attends shows with me as a willing participant lol
She’s aware of how much I have spent in the past on cards but if I make a purchase over $200 I let her know about it out of respect. She does the same with me if she plans to buy something over $200. Communication is key.
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Shoutout your boy @charizardespana’s podcast
It’s an old joke married men use to gloss over making an embarrassing purchase. My dad used to make this joke with his biker friends whenever he bought a new bike or tractor.
I dislike this joke because it promotes a culture of hiding purchases from your spouse, which damages marriages because:
- Money is the #1 stressor across relationships.
- Your spouse is legally responsible for your joint finances and debt. No one wants to be blind sided by a huge, unexpected expense.
- Trust is the foundation of a good relationship. Why make a life-long commitment to someone you don’t feel comfortable communicating embarrassing purchases to?
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Not sure if this is throwing shade or positive so…
Thanks man!
Or
Kick rocks!
The joke is absolutely fine for people who don’t take themselves too seriously. All of us in the podcast have wives/fiancés who we basically share everything with, including discussions about Pokémon purchases WHEN REQUIRED.
I do not share everything I buy with my wife, and she doesn’t share everything with me.
We have independent bank accounts and a shared one for family stuff.
Gotta have some trust at some point without micromanaging.
Yes, if there is a larger purchase to be made - we will talk about it.
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Also, bro went all the way to our channel but didn’t sub.
Ouch.
My wife doesn’t really care what I spend but I always tell her when I’m getting an expensive card.
Likewise, I don’t care what she spends.
The way we arrange our money is we have combined pots for savings and we have our own pots for whatever we want for ourselves - as long as we don’t compromise on our savings/purchases which we both contribute to, it’s fine.
That said people hiding it, replace the word pokemon card with gambling habit or whatever else and it becomes clear that is a problem - the guys in the example are a worry though half of them are likely just joking.
Communication is very important in a relationship, and financial openness is one of the more important topics I feel at least.
It’s also important to remember priorities shift - sometimes, like recently, I’ve only purchased a few items because we’re going on holiday soon. I’d rather be spending my card money on good times with her and my friends when we’re away.
Some people are unable to stop this spending or shift these priorities without great difficulty.
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Pokémon > Relationships
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Who needs girls, when you can have swirls?
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